Question: How do you know when you're finished having children?
Answer: WoW! What a question!
Luckily, I received this question in plenty of time to think about it (and pray, too). This is a question I think probably most parents face. I mean...who wants regret??? Not I!!!
From this point, it gets crazy! When I was pregnant with #5, we made a major move (would NOT recommend that!!) BTW.... there are only 14 months between #4 & #5. Life was starting to get really busy.
***May I pause here to insert that, after each birth, we kinda felt out our hearts to see if we were finished, and each time, we agreed that we just didn't feel our family was finished yet. So, we did nothing to change things. This does not mean that I (me, personally) wasn't tired & very weary....I was, but God held me.***
Then came #6...the pregnancy was different from the beginning. I had some medical issues that I hadn't faced before, and...not terribly surprising...we ended up with an emergency C-Section, and a baby in NICU for a week. This was the point at which we began seriously discussing being finished. However, we did nothing at that time. For a year & a half, we prayed. We talked. We prayed. We discussed. We prayed. We searched our hearts. We prayed. We made a decision. We prayed. We followed through with it. We prayed. We felt good about our decision.
Yep...it was true.
Well, I admit, I was a tad excited. After two boys, I was hoping for another girl to dress up. We just figured that this was just a fluke, after all we were done. So....baby #7 was born (a girl). She became the family princess. The pregnancy was rather rough with health issues, and we had some issues after the birth, but she was our *The End*, so it was ok.
Fast forward 10 weeks...
Me: "If I didn't know any better, I would think I was pregnant. I feel awful. Probably getting the flu."
Hubby: "Yeah, probably."
A few more days later...
Me: "It's totally crazy, I feel like I do when I'm pregnant!"
Hubby: "Better check."
Me: "Nah...not possible. (truth: I don't want to know)
A few MORE days later...
I am popping my non-pregnancy safe blood pressure pills in my mouth & it occurs to me: If I AM (by some strange stretch of the imagination) pregnant, this pill could harm the baby. UGH. So, I did what I thought I would NEVER do again....I bought a test....and stared at it in complete & UTTER DISBELIEF as it went from pink to blue ( or whatever it did). NO WAY!!! NOT POSSIBLE!!!!
So, 10 1/2 short months after baby 7 came baby 8. God's final gift to the Young family. She is a story in herself, but that's another blog posting. Because of some serious health concerns as well as another C-Section, we had an additional procedure done at the same time.
|Do NOT make a decision on a day like this!!!|
|Yeah, you guessed it....|
don't make a decision on THIS day, either.
I hope that I have offered some insight that you may not have thought of before, but more importantly, I hope I have been able to stress the importance of keeping God in your decision-making process. So many people pick & choose when He is to be included in their life, tending to leave Him out when they are afraid He will not agree with what they want to do. If you don't like what God is asking of you, then I suggest you ask Him for a change of heart/mind & for the strength, mercy & wisdom to carry out what He is requiring.
HE WILL!!! :)
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